What is a Teenager?
Does the word “teenager” strike terror in your heart? If so, you are probably the parent of a twelve year old who is fast approaching the dreaded teenage years. You know what other parents have said. Be prepared for your, previously precious and special child to turn into a totally unrecognisable, sullen, argumentative creature. You may even ask, “Who are you and what have you done with my child?” Oh, what a roller coaster ride you are about to experience. Sometimes you will see a glimpse of the child from your past and become hopeful. At other times, you will be ready to throw in the towel completely.
If you remember your child as a two year old, you will have some insight into what your teenager is going to be like. In fact, the terrible twos have been compared more than once to the same behaviour that puberty and adolescence causes. There are changes going on that affect the actions of both of these age groups. Sometimes you will actually see some of the toddler tantrums in your older child.
Now you know what to expect, at least to a certain degree, from your teenager. The important question becomes just how do you handle it, and get both of you through it. This is a question that has been asked for ages and ages. It is also the subject of hundreds of thousands of books. You have seen them in bookstores and in libraries. I don’t know that any of these books actually help or do what they promise to do. But you can find information in them that may at least give you some ideas as to what you should try during this very difficult time.
Teenagers have so many issues. It is expected. Everyone knows it is going to happen. Whether it is hormones, or something else, it is a crazy time in every human being’s life. The one solid way to help is through communication, and this is something that needs to start from the day you bring your precious newborn home from the hospital. Keep this communication alive as your child gets older. If you have done it right, by the time you have a teenager on your hands, you will at least be able to talk and listen. The two of you may not always understand each other, but at least you will be able to talk about things. That is worth everything.
Living with a teenager does not have to be the nightmare it is reputed to be. If you have an open door policy with regard to communication, your adolescent child will feel comfortable talking to you about nearly anything. You may not always agree, but at least you will have an idea of what is going on in the life of your teenager. This can make all the difference.
So the next time someone says What is a Teenager? – You Can Tell Them!↑ Back to Top